Sometimes I have no idea what I am going to write a post about. Sometimes there is so much to write about that I don’t know where to begin. Sometimes I have an idea in the back of my head for quite a while before it develops into something that I want to write about. Here is one of those!

I love making quilts!! I enjoy the whole process from buying fabric, cutting it, sewing it, quilting it and even binding it. I never can understand why some people hate to bind. I think of it as the final caress before I finish my quilt. Especially when I am giving a quilt away. It’s the last goodbye! But I digress.

What I want to talk about is giving our quilts away – letting go. I know there are other people out there like me. I need to make a quilt as a gift. I pick out the beautiful fabrics. I spend many, many hours cutting, sewing and quilting. I give it the final caress of binding. And then I don’t want to give it away!!

I made a “Friendship Star” quilt that I was going to give to friends that were getting married. As usual, I didn’t allow enough time to get it finished before the wedding. But by the time of the wedding, I had fallen in love with the quilt and couldn’t bear to give it away. So I bought them a nice gift and kept the quilt. I felt guilty about that for a while, but then the marriage didn’t work out, they got divorced and I didn’t feel guilty anymore! Although I was very sad that they couldn’t work out their differences (I’m not entirely heartless!!)

After that quilt gifting debacle, I didn’t give quilts as gifts for a while. It seemed like every quilt I made was something that I really loved and I couldn’t bear to part with it. But we all know that there is going to be some time that we are going to make a quilt to give away.

Baby quilts aren’t as difficult for me.

I made this quilt for my great-nephew and didn’t have a bit of problem gifting it. I loved it, especially the rick rack ocean waves that the sailboats float on. But I didn’t want to keep it for myself.

Anyway, for what it’s worth, here are my quilt gifting guidelines.

1) Know the recipients!!! This is the number one rule. There are certain people that I love and I want to make a quilt for them. But they have pets. Pets that get on beds, that shed, that have “accidents”, that do any number of other things that are not very kind to quilts. I have decided that they are not going to get any heirloom quilts that take me months of time. There are a lot of very pretty quilt patterns that do not require huge amounts of effort. Those are the patterns I pull out when making a gift for someone with pets.

2) Again, know your recipients! Let’s face it. There are some people that just don’t GET quilts. To them it is just another blanket – I know, it’s crazy, but that is how they think!! Pick some pretty fabric, cut it into big squares, make it into a quilt and call it done. They’ll like the pretty colors, you’ve made a gift and every one is happy.

3) Let it go!! No matter what you do, sometimes other people will not treat your wonderful gift with the same love and care that you would give it. LET IT GO!! It isn’t yours anymore! When you see it out in the yard being used as a fort, take a deep breath and say to yourself, “It isn’t mine, it isn’t mine, it isn’t mine!” And next time you need to give that person a gift – order it from a catalog.

Then go make a quilt for yourself!!!